23. Improve your sleep

Poor sleep doesn’t just make us crankier, it also makes us lonelier.

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The number one predictor of long-term success—in business, art, and relationships—is the amount of discomfort we’re willing to endure. This activity will help you build your awkward tolerance.

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21. Align Your Time With Your Priorities

Most people would say family and friends are more important than anything else, but the way we spend our time doesn’t always match our priorities. Try this simple exercise to see how well your time aligns with your priorities.

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20. Set a social mini-goal

People often set goals that are overly ambitious, then fizzle out. Starting small, with mini-goals, will give you early success that you can build on. This strategy can be applied to any of your goals, including building stronger connection.

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19. Partner up on your goals

If you’re serious about achieving a goal, an accountability partner brings your chances of success up to 95% … and builds connection.

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18. Let love in … it’s the cure for insecurity

In order to achieve a sense of belonging and connection, we don’t just need to BE loved, we need to FEEL loved. That means learning to let in the kindness, care, and positivity we receive.

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17. Be reliable. Flakiness is for pies, not people.

Being reliable may not sound sexy, but following through on commitments builds trust, which is essential to the long-term health of a friendship.

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16. Celebrate your friends’ successes

Most people think that the strength of a friendship is based on being there through hard times, but research shows that celebrating a friend’s good news is even more important.

15. Connect with Your Values

Completing this 10-minute writing exercise has been shown to improve mood, increase empathy and connection, and boost motivation to follow-through on the things you care about.

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14. Vent and Validate ... it makes people feel heard.

People love this simple activity. Most of us crave validation, because—let’s face it—we’re all a bit malnourished in that area. Unfortunately, the typical responses to venting can make matters worse…

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12. Get Out of Your Head: quieting social awkwardness and anxiety

Social anxiety interferes with our ability to make connections, develop relationships, and have a satisfying social life. This strategy helps you work through it.

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11. Really Listen. Your friends will love you for it.

Giving someone your full attention and really listening is a simple, but rare, gift.

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10. Start the thing that you want to join ... and create belonging

We all want to feel like we belong to something … but sometimes that something doesn’t exist. You could be the one to start it.

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9. Mirror. It's a secret superpower!

Mirroring can be used to build genuine connection … or to manipulate.

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8. Ask for help

If you find it difficult to ask for help, you’re not alone! But being independent is overrated—we all need support. These are some ways to ask for help and strengthen your support system.

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6. Ask for advice or a small favor ... and leverage the "Franklin Effect."

Many people have a hard time asking for help because they don’t want to be a burden, but asking for a small favor can make people like you more.

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5. Ask Good Questions. It increases your likability.

Being curious and asking interesting questions is at the top of the list of what makes people likable. Here are a few questions to spark interesting conversation.

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4. Challenge social ideals. Trying to live up to them will make you miserable

Rosy ideals and unrealistic expectations about friendship often make us feel bad about ourselves when reality doesn’t match up. Here are some ideas for addressing the expectation gap.